Domestic Violence Not Always One Sided - A Havard Health Publication

 Reblogged from Fearless Fathers:

Fathers, Fear No More: Divorce Laws Are Fair, We Just Don't Know It

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I am no lawyer, all right. But after watching for the second times divorce lawyer Yvette Harrell's video on the Huffington Post from August 10, I am still bemused about the fairness of divorce laws in this country. Can anybody enlighten me?

What I grasp from Yvette Harrell's interview is that we, would-be divorced fathers and divorced fathers, have an information problem.

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 Reblogged from Notes from an Alienated Dad:

A Long Road

In the middle of the drama this week with my 18 year old, I got a text from her Grandpa (my exwife's dad).  Having been through a divorce with her mom when my ex was in junior high and having been aggressively alienated from his kids by his ex-wife, he is intimately aware of how difficult the process is.  Keep in mind, this would be the very first time that I have heard from anyone on her side of the family since the separation, with the exception of a couple of hellos as they walked past.

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Domestic Violence: Not Always One Sided - A Havard Health Publication

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This year’s theme is “Hold False-Accusers Accountable.” We have put together a list of activities to help you educate others on false allegations of abuse. First, educate yourself with our hand-out “False Allegations by the Numbers.” Then ask your local newspaper or radio station to cover the issue. [image: False Allegations Awareness Month] *Read More:*

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STOP PARENTAL ALIENATION

STOP PARENTAL ALIENATION

THE FLORIDA BAR JOURNAL, VOL. 73, No. 3, MARCH 1999, p 44-48
Parental Alienation Syndrome:How to Detect It and What to Do About It

by J. Michael Bone and Michael R. Walsh

Although parental alienation syndrome (PAS) is a familiar term, there is still a great deal of confusion and unclarity about its nature, dimensions, and, therefore, its detection.(1)

 Its presence, however, is unmistakable. In a longitudinal study of 700 "high conflict" divorce cases followed over 12 years, it was concluded that elements of PAS are present in the vast majority of the samples.(2) Diagnosis of PAS is reserved for mental health professionals who come to the court in the form of expert witnesses. Diagnostic hallmarks usually are couched in clinical terms that remain vague and open to interpretation and, therefore. susceptible to argument pro and con by opposing experts. 

The phenomenon of one parent turning the child against the other parent is not a complicated concept, but historically it has been difficult to identify clearly. Consequently, cases involving PAS are heavily litigated, filled with accusations and counter accusations, and thus leave the court with an endless search for details that eventually evaporate into nothing other than rank hearsay. 

It is our experience that the PAS phenomenon leaves a trail that can be identified more effectively by removing the accusation hysteria, and looking ahead in another positive direction.

For the purpose of this article the authors are assuming a fair degree of familiarity with parental alienation syndrome on the part of the reader.(3) There are many good writings on PAS which the reader may wish to consult now or in the future for general information. Our focus here is much more narrow. Specifically, the goal is twofold. First we will describe four very specific criteria that can be used to identify potential PAS. In most instances, these criteria can be identified through the facts of the case, but also can be revealed by deposition or court testimony. Secondly, we wish to introduce the concept of "attempted" PAS; that is when the criteria of PAS are present, but the child is not successfully alienated from the absent parent. This phenomenon is still quite harmful and the fact of children not being alienated should not be viewed as neutral by the court.

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Any attempt at alienating the children from the other parent should be seen as a direct and willful violation of one of the prime duties of parenthood.

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The criteria described below are fairly easy to identify separate and apart from the court file. When there is uncertainty about any of them, these criteria can be used to guide the attorney in the deposing of witnesses as well as in their examination in court.

Criteria I: Access and Contact Blocking

Criteria I involves the active blocking of access or contact between the child and the absent parent. The rationale used to justify it may well take many different forms. One of the most common is that of protection. It may be argued that the absent parent's parental judgment is inferior and, therefore, the child is much worse off from the visit. In extreme cases, this will take the form of allegations of child abuse, quite often sexual abuse. This will be addressed in more detail in Criteria II, but suffice it to say that often this is heard as a reason for visitation to be suspended or even terminated. On a more subtle and common level, an argument heard for the blocking of visitation is that seeing the absent parent is "unsettling" to the child, and that they need time "to adjust." The message here is that the absent parent is treated less like a key family member and more like an annoying acquaintance that the child must see at times. Over time, this pattern can have a seriously erosive effect

WHY IS THIS A CRITICAL ISSUE?

Denial of reasonable access to your own kids is child abuse
Posted by Parental Alienation & other Child abuse awareness/prevention on Sunday, October 25, 2015

Unfettered EQUAL Access To BOTH Parents

 Reblogged from Family Court in America: Reblogged from Journey Through Alienation:

Dr. Phil, Richard Rohr, and Alienation ~ Part 1

November 1st and 2nd brought to my attention two seemingly unconnected things.The first was a show on the Dr. Phil Show about Parental Alienation.  Dr. Phil.com - Shows - Parental Alienation: Who's to Blame?.The second was a meditation by Richard Rohr about sincere non-self-hating regretful ownership of our mistakes.

If you've taken a moment to review the Dr.

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 Reblogged from Jourey Through Alienation:

Dr. Phil, Richard Rohr and Alienation ~ Part 2

This is part 2 of the post on Dr. Phil, Richard Rohr and Alienation. To view part 1, click here.So after pondering what I had seen on the Dr. Phil Show episode on November 1st, I opened up my email the next day and came across the following meditation from the Centre for Action and Contemplation.

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 Reblogged from Karen Woodall:

Stories from the transition bridge: Polly plays ping pong

I get a lot of emails asking for help with older children who are emerging from 'alienation' and so I thought I would share with you Polly's tale.Polly is a twenty year old woman who has not had a relationship with her father for the past eleven years.  Polly was separated from her father when she was nine years old after her mother moved out of the family home and took her with her.  

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Parental Alienation - Dr. L.F. Lowenstein - Southern England Psychological Services

Part II - Parental Alienation Syndrome and Its Impact on Children

 Reblogged from leslinetmd:

Is Parental Alienation Syndrome Recognized by Professionals?

"Is Parental Alienation Syndrome Recognized by Professionals? "...it has been argued that not enough research has been conducted. It is my belief that this line of reasoning is incorrect and that outside special interests have influenced the decision to exclude PAS."

Click link to alienation is child abuse.org

LIVE from Argentina: Truth About So-Called PAS

From the Office of The Comptroller General of the Republic of Argentina: 

The conference on Parental Alienation Syndrome will air live on the website 

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WHY IS THIS A CRITICAL ISSUE?

Where Is The Love?

 Reblogged from Francis Roy's Blog:

An interview with:

Warren Farrell  Stefan Molyneux

Primal Desire Versus Rational Love

- Dr. Warren Farrell Interviewed on Freedomain Radio

Stefan Molyneux, host Freedomain Radio, interviews renowned political expert and gender theorist Dr. Warren Farrell, author of The Myth of Male Power, Father and Child Reunion, Why Men Earn More and many other great books.

You can find out more about Dr. Farrell 

Where Is The Love?…where on Earth...

….not in Family Court or the hearts of those within the CPS, CYFS, SS. CAS or any other child welfare authority it would seem…

…..nor is it to be found in the hearts of our so called family friendly leaders Obama. Cameron, Keys. Harper and Gillard should all hold their heads in shame as childhood is such a short span of time, they are all culpable of causing untold misery to so many and leaving them with a life time of regret! (Consider this as you listen to this video!)

I dedicate this powerful anthem and the sentiments of this blog to the Family Justice campaigns the world over!
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Improve the lives of children and strengthens society by protecting every child's right to the love and care of both parents after separation or divorce. We seek better lives for children through family court reform that establishes equal rights and responsibilities for fathers and mothers.

"The world is a dangerous place, not because of those who do evil, but because of those who look on and do nothing" ~ Albert Einstein 

We intend to organize a national conference on family law reform in Washington, D.C. on November 15th and 16th, 2014. If you have an interest in attending such a conference, please submit your name, email address, and the state you live in. We will get back to you with details as we begin to organize this event.

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