It's Time to Speak Up for Male Victims of Domestic Violence!

A Male Victim of Domestic Violence Speaks!

It's Time to Speak Up for Male Victims of Domestic Violence!

Men's Rights Group of Arizona LLC: A Male Victim of Domestic Violence Speaks!

Hello Everyone,

In recent weeks there has been much speculation about my so-called “criminal past”. Today I want to clear up a few things as I move forward with my campaign to sit on the Central Arizona College Board. Therefore, 

I have allowed the Men’s Rights Group of Arizona LLC to highlight my case including all the police reports, Eloy PD Internal Investigation and settled lawsuit against the agency by clicking here.

Additionally, I would also like to point out Lando Voyles was a major player in how my case ended for the worse. 

For all intense and purposes, Lando Voyles and Richard Wintory knew Judge Lorona in the Eloy Justice Court had a vested interest in finding men guilty of domestic violence. Judge Lorona was part owner and manager of the Pinal Hispanic Council where all her domestic violence offenders were court ordered to attend classes. While the Presiding Judge and Board President of the Pinal Hispanic Council she diverted court funds into her domestic violence programs she operated and managed. Lando Voyles and Richard Wintory knew this court was corrupt but didn’t care so long as they kept winning cases for this year’s reelection cycle.

You can view the court reports here that details Lando Voyle’s full knowledge of this corrupt court’s actions by clicking on this paragraph.

I fully plan to run and keep my position on the Central Arizona College Board. I hope that once you see the full experience I endured as a male victim of domestic violence you many understand why this period of my life was extremely painful and life altering.

Please Read and share this post. Thank you for your continued support!

Richard Cassalata M.Ed., ABD

Family Violence Affects Men Too from teri stoddard on Vimeo.
Alberta Primetime
Family Violence Affects Men Too

Original Air Date: Monday, February 04, 2013
http://www.albertaprimetime.com/Stories.aspx?pd=4755

Family violence is a constant problem, but the discussion is often limited to female victims. Many men also deal with violence and abuse, but perhaps lack access to the same resources. Does our approach to this issue need to change? Are solutions to family violence gender-specific? We talk to Dustin Tkachuk, from Legal Aid Alberta and Earl Silverman, from the Family of Men Support Society.

Information about both these organizations can be found here:

http://www.legalaid.ab.ca/help/EmergencySituations/Pages/EPOP.aspx
http://www.familyofmen.com/

Source: Men's Rights Group of Arizona LLC: A Male Victim of Domestic Violence Speaks!

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Alienation occurs when one parent gives the child permission to break the other parent’s heart.

Rights of Grandparents Differ In Florida and Alabama

This medallion is usually near Richard DeBlase. It has pictures of his grandchildren, Natalie and Chase.

“Unless you see a face sometimes, names mean nothing,” said Richard DeBlase. Also close–a stack of papers detailing is efforts to try and get a grandparents bill of rights reinstated in Alabama. Natalie and Chase DeBlase were murdered in 2010. The children’s father, and Richard’s son, John DeBlase was convicted of their murder last year. This year another jury convicted Heather Keaton of murder–making her the first woman from Mobile County sentenced to death. In the months leading up to children’s deaths, Richard DeBlase says they tried to see the kids but their parents always kept them away.

“I would have had the right to be able to see them physically and that was something I never could do,” said Richard DeBlase. Florida enacted its own laws for grandparents’ visitation this summer. While welcomed by advocates the grandparents rights law only applies to a select group in the sunshine state–if the parents of the children are both dead, missing or in a vegetative state–or if one parent meets any of those criteria and the other convicted of a felony.

Alabama passed its own grandparents visitation act years ago, but it was eventually overturned in 2011. The state Supreme Court saying the law violated the rights of parents to decide who their children can see. Richard DeBlase is hopeful something can change.

“Anytime you enact laws and legislation to help the kids, it helps everyone involved,” said DeBlase. ~~  By Chad Petri

Lost Parents: When High Conflict Divorce Leads to Parental Alienation

The space of time sandwiched between Mother’s Day and Father’s Day can bring unique anguish for people whose children have become alienated from them through a high conflict divorce.

Parental alienation happens when a child becomes enmeshed with one parent, strongly allying himself or herself with that parent, and rejects the other parent without legitimate justification. These children are encouraged by one parent, the favored parent or alienating parent, to unjustly reject the other parent, the targeted parent. The children can fall prey to the alienating parent’s tactics as a means of escaping the conflict.

According to psychiatrist Dr. William Bernet, professor emeritus of Vanderbilt University and a researcher into the phenomenon, “Almost every mental health professional who works with children of divorced parents acknowledges that PA—as we define it—affects thousands of families and causes enormous pain and hardship.” (Parental Alienation, AACAP News, Sept 2013, pp. 255-256.)

Bernet and other researchers refer to eight criteria for diagnosing parental alienation, including a campaign of denigration against the targeted parent, the child’s lack of ambivalence, frivolous rationalizations for the child’s criticisms against the target parent, reflexive support of the alienating parent against the target parent, the child’s lack of guilt over exploitation and mistreatment of the target parent, borrowed scenarios, and the spread of the child’s animosity toward the target parent’s extended family or friends.

These criteria sound academic but their effect is exquisitely awful in the most human and primal way. The child basically constructs an alternate reality where the parent is some kind of monster. There’s no longer any sense of the parent as a human being with the ordinary nuances of the gray scale, or as a good-enough parent; the parent’s actions and statements are twisted, distorted, and massaged to “prove” that the parent is unworthy of contact.

Children will adamantly maintain that they themselves have compiled their list of rationalizations for the parentectomy in progress. This is called the independent thinker phenomenon.

For a parent who would willingly give his or her heart or liver to a beloved child who needs it, it’s a nightmarish turn of events. The pain is surreal, and it’s frequently heightened both by outright viciousness on the child’s part and by the child’s complete lack of remorse about the way he or she has treated the targeted parent. The child feels entitled to demonize the targeted parent and justified in doing so, and therefore entitled to behave with extreme nastiness toward the parent.

Amy J. L. Baker, PhD, one of Bernet’s research colleagues, writes about seventeen primary strategies used by the alienating parent to foster conflict and psychological distance between the child and the targeted parent.

These include poisonous messages to the child about the targeted parent in which he or she is portrayed as unloving, unsafe, and unavailable, such as, “your mother is a rage monster who shames you”; erasing and replacing the targeted parent in the heart and mind of the child, “you can trust mommy, she doesn’t judge and malign you like daddy does”; encouraging the child to betray the targeted parent’s trust, “how bad was daddy this weekend?”; and undermining the authority of the targeted parent, “your mom’s rules don’t apply, you don’t have to listen to your mother, do whatever you want.”

The targeted parent can feel bewildered when witnessing the alienating parent’s strategies, because the distance itself is so unthinkable. It doesn’t feel real in the context of a history of a normal loving relationship with a son or daughter. It’s shocking and heart-rending when those toxic tactics succeed. “Alienation occurs when one parent gives the child permission to break the other parent’s heart,” Baker notes.