- Family Law Reform, Inc. most immediate goal is the creation of reasonable guidelines in our Florida divorce law to inform and assist judges in their continuing oversight and orders for alimony. These guidelines would discourage the destructive practice of continued litigation in order to determine a ‘winner’ and a ‘loser’. The present adversarial situation is destroying families while creating wealth for the courts and litigating family lawyers.
- Family Law Reform, Inc. most immediate goal is the creation of reasonable guidelines in our Florida divorce law to inform and assist judges in their continuing oversight and orders for alimony. These guidelines would discourage the destructive practice of continued litigation in order to determine a ‘winner’ and a ‘loser’. The present adversarial situation is destroying families while creating wealth for the courts and litigating family lawyers.
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If your lawyer doesn't like your personality, it will affect how she feels about working on your case. Rather than looking forward to working on your case, she will have to talk herself into it. Not liking you can affect her enthusiasm for the work, and how well supported you feel during the process.
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Is there a crisis in the courthouse? Have backlogs, delays, deferrals and/or the downright refusal to…
HAVE LITIGANT'S LOST CONFIDENCE IN THE SYSTEM? | NJ Family Legal Blog
Eric, thank you for being brave enough to post this. Yes, as you say, many of your fellow family law attorneys share this concern. You didn't mention the one I was dealing with recently: When attorneys spend a lot of time writing something, sweating every sentence to make it persuasive and legally sound, going back and forth with a client to ensure the points are made as strongly as possible... and then to have it 100% apparent that a judge never even read it, either via an overt, obnoxious insistence that an issue or case be settled when it just needs to be decided or via giving a decision from another planet. It's not only the litigants who are losing faith in the system. For those of us (like you and like me) who care about more than just billable hours but in doing the best job possible for our clients, it's ... well, frustrating isn't the word.
Of course, as with anything in our court system, it's far, far easier to tear down and criticize (see the "Divorce Corp" movie) than it is to come up with realistic suggestions for how to make it better. It's pathetically easy for people to rip into the system, but these same (sometime self-righteous...see the "Divorce Corp" movie) people who are so free to point out what's wrong will cowardly slink away when the topic turns to "okay - so what we do"?
It's an issue I would love to see our brethren (and "sisthen") really take on. Judicial accountability would be one place to start. You know those "review" sheets we get occasionally for untenured judges? How about if we got more of those, and for both tenured and untenured judges? How about if they were read by someone who had the ability to do something about it? At a minimum, lazy judges should not be in Family or criminal - they should be somewhere where the worst damage they can do to someone is financial only (civil / special civil). At a maximum, our State constitution says the judges serve "during good behavior" but never defines that term. I say that being a judge should be the same as any other job - if you show (via attorney surveys, having an astronomical reversal rate for stupid errors) you can't hack it, then your employment ends, just like any other job.
And what's most frustrating is that the Bar Association sections seem far happier to kowtow and sing the praises of our judiciary instead of calling a spade a spade and taking action to really create the kind of system that we can be consistently proud of. Yes, there are great judges, who work hard, who care, who read the papers, who balance things... But, to use an analogy, no one would be asked to drive a car that "only has a 5% chance" of suddenly losing its steering and crashing.
Sorry for the long post, but you touched a nerve with this. As I said, it's an issue I would love to see our brethren (and "sisthen") really take on. I hope others will show the courage you have and that we can really move forward to address the problems.
Of course, as with anything in our court system, it's far, far easier to tear down and criticize (see the "Divorce Corp" movie) than it is to come up with realistic suggestions for how to make it better. It's pathetically easy for people to rip into the system, but these same (sometime self-righteous...see the "Divorce Corp" movie) people who are so free to point out what's wrong will cowardly slink away when the topic turns to "okay - so what we do"?
It's an issue I would love to see our brethren (and "sisthen") really take on. Judicial accountability would be one place to start. You know those "review" sheets we get occasionally for untenured judges? How about if we got more of those, and for both tenured and untenured judges? How about if they were read by someone who had the ability to do something about it? At a minimum, lazy judges should not be in Family or criminal - they should be somewhere where the worst damage they can do to someone is financial only (civil / special civil). At a maximum, our State constitution says the judges serve "during good behavior" but never defines that term. I say that being a judge should be the same as any other job - if you show (via attorney surveys, having an astronomical reversal rate for stupid errors) you can't hack it, then your employment ends, just like any other job.
And what's most frustrating is that the Bar Association sections seem far happier to kowtow and sing the praises of our judiciary instead of calling a spade a spade and taking action to really create the kind of system that we can be consistently proud of. Yes, there are great judges, who work hard, who care, who read the papers, who balance things... But, to use an analogy, no one would be asked to drive a car that "only has a 5% chance" of suddenly losing its steering and crashing.
Sorry for the long post, but you touched a nerve with this. As I said, it's an issue I would love to see our brethren (and "sisthen") really take on. I hope others will show the courage you have and that we can really move forward to address the problems.
Welcome new and old members alike. Our organization's focus is REFORMING CURRENT ALIMONY LAW IN FLORIDA, with an eye on future family law issues.
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We'd like to share
a
video that Larry Rutan, one
of our members, put together to explain why the current Family Law
System lends itself to abuse. Larry helps to demonstrate the relationship
between judges, lawyers, and the citizens they are supposed to
serve.
HOWEVER, we must call your
attention to Larry's opening line: "I'm going to prove to you that divorce laws
have little, or no meaning." FLR does NOT agree with this statement. Divorce
law is very meaningful for people who are, or could be, hurt financially in
their marriage.
Divorce law dates back many
years, to English law (and some say even earlier) and is part of our judicial
system: our goal is to reform it, not eliminate it. Having said that, we
encourage you to watch Larry's video, as his compelling story makes valid points
and illustrates how Florida divorce law was biased, unpredictable, and
inconsistent - not to mention unfair - in his particular case. Larry's story is
a sample of the many divorce cases that are abused by current law in our
society.
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Tired of listening to rhetoric about updating alimony laws with little progress to show...yet? Join the Movement! There will be hundreds of people in similar divorce situations working toward answers to Florida and other states outdated Family Laws, INCLUDING ALIMONY LAWS!Solutions are rarely convenient. It means taking time out of your schedule to take the steps needed to make the changes in the laws our families so desperately need. Many new contacts can be made with people who have the ability to make a difference. Together, we can make a huge impact on our countries outdated "Family" laws. The investment in time and money that you make to attend will be money well spent. We will be connecting with many other people penalized under today's Family Law System. These connections are absolutely necessary if we want alimony reform to be a reality. Airfare from Florida ranges from $225 - $350 round trip, depending on the airline. Book asap. The meeting is $179 if you book in Oct. and your meals you would eat home or away. The cost of being a part of the national Family Law Reform movement will long be forgotten after you experience progress and see the laws being changed. The Family Law Reform core group will be attending. Join us and hundreds of others in bringing more attention to our countries damaged Family Law System.
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Domingo, 19 de Octubre, 2014 Los crecientes problemas entre los matrimonios han derivado en una escalada de violencia intrafamiliar, que puede provocar el sĆndrome de alienaciĆ³n parental, que afecta los derechos de los niƱos, advirtiĆ³ la investigadora de la Universidad de Monterrey (UDEM), Claudia GonzĆ”lez Trujillo. Al presentar su obra “SĆndrome de alienaciĆ³n parental: Lazos rotos, corazones desgarrados”, en la Feria Internacional del Libro 2014 del TecnolĆ³gico de Monterrey, expuso que el texto, del cual saldrĆ” una segunda ediciĆ³n, es considerado por algunos acadĆ©micos como un trab... more »
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GUBERNATORIAL DEBATE A BUST FOR ALIMONY REFORM INFORMATION
Thanks to "Fangate" the first eight minutes were wasted for the hour long debate, preventing several questions from ever being asked. Both candidates continue to blame each other, while Floridians struggle to make a decision of who to vote for.
There is still one more debate scheduled. Even if the alimony reform questions are asked, there is no guarantee either candidate will show their true colors. Gov. Scott said he will consider signing an alimony reform bill that is not retroactive. Charlie Crist says the laws are fine. We just need more judges. No matter which candidate becomes our governor, we will continue to push the Florida legislature toward passing a meaningful alimony reform bill this next year. Please continue to keep alimony reform on the minds of our politicians. Continue your online comments whenever possible. It's YOUR comments to the media that are keeping alimony reform in the news. Here is a comment and a question to the debate panel. Continue our "Comment Campaign" by sending your thoughts wherever possible. You never know when an influential individual will read them
"The Florida Legislature easily passed the alimony reform bill, but Gov. Scott vetoed it - despite majority approval by both Democrats and Republicans. Fifty-five percent of marriages end in divorce, so obviously millions of Floridians are affected by the antiquated alimony laws as they currently exist in Florida.
The only people who gain from the current alimony laws are family law attorneys. I would like to know what the candidates feel about the alimony crisis in Florida."
David Monroe, Boca Raton
Remember, If we let up...we lose!
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Politicians are great for talking around a question. See how Charlie Crist answers the question, "What is your opinion of Gov. Scott vetoing the bill that would end permanent alimony?"
"These cases are all different and unique. That's why we have judges, which is important. I want to talk about appointing judges. But the fact that you have alimony, it's brought about to make sure the spouse, whichever one needs help, gets it. It's a fairness issue. How it's done in each individual case needs to be decided by individual judges, not by the governor, not by the Legislature."
Click Here to read the rest of his response to permanent alimony.
Click Here to read the rest of his interview. For those wondering what Charlie Crist believes about permanent alimony, he made it abundantly clear. He wants nothing to do with permanent alimony. According to Mr. Crist, it should be left to the judges. Of course, their final judgments vary as much as the temperatures around the world! With no guidelines Mr. Crist believes our judges are in the best position to help the families going through divorce.
Charlie, we couldn't disagree more!
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Even when the alimony reform questions are requested, there isn't a guarantee both candidate will show their true colors
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