Infected with political bacteria (government corruption), the family law system is top-heavy with managers while those in the lower ranks are so thin (Indian tribe with too many chiefs and very few braves), they rarely have the time or the inclination to serve the people properly.
Consequently, this has created a culture in which every divorced /separated dad is seen as a terrorist and is treated as such.
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Every day they're trying to kill us, we must be trying to kill them first, purely in self defenseThursday, June 2, 2016 - Information - John Joseph Montano - Fathers Rights | ||
Why does everybody keep taking what they are given from family law. When are we all going to stick together and fight.
They take our kids money and give it were it's not needed while fathers can't afford even to eat.
 It feels like Germany during World War Two. They did what ever to those poor people. Why did those people take what was given to them. They just went along with it cause they didn't want to go against the system.
We as fathers need to do more!!! It don't cost to get the word out.
Write letters to everybody, contact the news tell your story!!
The squeaky wheel gets the grease. That's what we need to be across this country. The loudest squeaky wheel ever!!
We as fathers won't succeed nor will our sons if we continue like we are!!!
I'm fighting for my son.
I want to support the cause!!!
Enough is enough!!!
The only ones losing is our children!!
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Children's Rights: FACIO – Fathers And Children International Organiz...: Thomas A Nagy Author and Activist: FACIO – Fathers And Children International Organization
WHY IS THIS A CRITICAL ISSUE?
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I am a family law attorney and I have seen first-hand the kind of unfairness that you are complaining about and I know that you are making a very legitimate point.
Every time I sit and observe for even an hour or so in family court, I come out wondering what foreign country have I wandered into. Fathers are on the bad end of some peculiar social forces and norms at this point in our culture and even understanding that it is cultural and social -- and not personal -- does not make it more bearable for those who are affected. I am not going to cheerlead, or defend the system. It's wrong and it goes on and on and on.
So, what to do?
Join forces. There is an active "Fathers' Equal Rights" community that has only started to explore its potential for political and social influence.
One voice is a rant; many voices is public policy. All judges are ultimately accountable to the public, even those that forget that is so.
Here is contact info for local state advocates in your area, support and work with them for change.
You can begin by attending your the TFRM Rally this June 17th at your State Capitol.
There simply isn't any other or better alternative.
Find the link to your local state rally below.
You can also go to the address printed on the meme below to see if any of our current open volunteer positions interest you.
Sincerely,
Kenneth Goins
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They can continue to kidnap our children, steal our homes, and threaten our lives, but it then becomes our inescapable duty to make them wish to God they didn't. By now it should be clear even to the most obstinate of them that THEY liked it so much better when I (and all like me) had our children not less than 50% of the time, and our homes, mortgages, jobs, drivers licenses, community volunteer work, and above all faith in that intolerable cesspool of greed and corruption now-exposed.
Every day they're trying to kill us, we must be trying to kill them first, purely in self defense, until it becomes unavoidably clear that they want to stop waging this war on us, our children, homes, and lives. Sadly, that's the ONLY way to make it stop since absolutely everything else has been attempted for decades (political hearings, new laws, scientific studies showing the clear harms to children, fit parents, grandparents, taxpayers, and society itself, more legal filings, rallies, billboards, costumes, placards, books, movies) and ALL have proven entirely ineffectual while nothing changes but the irreplaceable passage of time and the faces and names of the victims.
WE have to make it stop. And now that it's no secret how they rabbit hole works and how the pyramid of kidnapping, judicial corruption and multi-agency collusion and cover ups is organized, it's very clear that the only way to make it stop is to make it just as unsafe and unprofitable as possible.
I wish with all my heart there was some other way, but there isn't and that's been documented and exemplified over and over again. Whether we like it or not, we're at war until our children are returned and restitution is obtained, otherwise those who think they can kidnap our children, steal our homes, property, life savings, future earnings, and threaten our very lives, better be equally ready to lose their own homes and lives as we are to defend ours and our children's.
Every day they're trying to kill us, we must be trying to kill them first, purely in self defense, until it becomes unavoidably clear that they want to stop waging this war on us, our children, homes, and lives. Sadly, that's the ONLY way to make it stop since absolutely everything else has been attempted for decades (political hearings, new laws, scientific studies showing the clear harms to children, fit parents, grandparents, taxpayers, and society itself, more legal filings, rallies, billboards, costumes, placards, books, movies) and ALL have proven entirely ineffectual while nothing changes but the irreplaceable passage of time and the faces and names of the victims.
WE have to make it stop. And now that it's no secret how they rabbit hole works and how the pyramid of kidnapping, judicial corruption and multi-agency collusion and cover ups is organized, it's very clear that the only way to make it stop is to make it just as unsafe and unprofitable as possible.
HOW DID CHILDREN OF DIVORCE GET STUCK WITH THE VISITATION PLAN THAT AFFORDS THEM ACCESS TO THEIR NON-RESIDENTIAL PARENT ONLY ONE NIGHT DURING THE WEEK AND EVERY OTHER WEEK-END?
ReplyDeleteWhat is the research that supports such a schedule? Where is the data that confirms that such a plan is in the best interest of the child?
Well, reader, you can spend your time from now until eternity researching the literature, and YOU WILL NOT DISCOVER ANY SUPPORTING DATA for the typical visitation arrangement with the non-residential parent! The reality is that this arrangement is based solely on custom. And just like the short story, "The Lottery," in which the prizewinner is stoned to death, the message is that deeds and judgments are frequently arrived at based on nothing more than habit, fantasy, prejudice, and yes, on "junk science."
This family therapist upholds the importance of both parents playing an active and substantial role in their children's lives----especially in situations when the parents are apart. In order to support the goal for each parent to provide a meaningfully and considerable involvement in the lives of their children, I affirm that the resolution to custody requires an arrangement for joint legal custody and physical custody that maximizes the time with the non-residential----with the optimal arrangement being 50-50, whenever practical. It is my professional opinion that the customary visitation arrangement for non-residential parents to visit every other weekend and one night during the week is not sufficient to maintain a consequential relationship with their children. Although I have heard matrimonial attorneys, children's attorneys, and judges assert that the child needs the consistency of the same residence, I deem this assumption to be nonsense. I cannot be convinced that the consistency with one's bed trumps consistency with a parent!
Should the reader question how such an arrangement can be judiciously implemented which maximizes the child's time---even in a 50-50 arrangement----with the non-residential parent, I direct the reader to the book, Mom's House, Dads House, by the Isolina Ricci, PhD.
Indeed, the research that we do have supports the serious consequences to children when the father, who is generally the non-residential parent, does not play a meaningful role in lives of his children. The book, Fatherneed, (2000) by Dr. Kyle Pruitt, summarizes the research at Yale University about the importance of fathers to their children. And another post on this page summarizes an extensive list of other research.
Children of divorce or separation of their parents previously had each parent 100% of the time and obviously cannot have the same arrangement subsequent to their parents' separation. But it makes no sense to this family therapist that the result of parental separation is that the child is accorded only 20% time with one parent and 80% with the other. What rational person could possibly justify this?
Children's Bill of Rights
ReplyDeleteWHEN PARENTS ARE NOT TOGETHER
Every kid has rights, particularly when mom and dad are splitting up. Below are some things parents shouldn't forget -- and kids shouldn't let them -- when the family is in the midst of a break-up.
You have the right to love both your parents. You also have the right to be loved by both of them. That means you shouldn't feel guilty about wanting to see your dad or your mom at any time. It's important for you to have both parents in your life, particularly during difficult times such as a break-up of your parents.
You do not have to choose one parent over the other. If you have an opinion about which parent you want to live with, let it be known. But nobody can force you to make that choice. If your parents can't work it out, a judge may make the decision for them.
You're entitled to all the feelings you're having. Don't be embarrassed by what you're feeling. It is scary when your parents break up, and you're allowed to be scared. Or angry. Or sad. Or whatever.
You have the right to be in a safe environment. This means that nobody is allowed to put you in danger, either physically or emotionally. If one of your parents is hurting you, tell someone -- either your other parent or a trusted adult like a teacher.
You don't belong in the middle of your parents' break-up. Sometimes your parents may get so caught up in their own problems that they forget that you're just a kid, and that you can't handle their adult worries. If they start putting you in the middle of their dispute, remind them that it's their fight, not yours.
Grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins are still part of your life. Even if you're living with one parent, you can still see relatives on your other parent's side. You'll always be a part of their lives, even if your parents aren't together anymore.
You have the right to be a child. Kids shouldn't worry about adult problems. Concentrate on your school work, your friends, activities, etc. Your mom and dad just need your love. They can handle the rest.
IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT AND DON'T BLAME YOURSELF.
----Special Concerns of Children Committee, March, 1998
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