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The Changing Role of the Modern Day Father

The modern day father comes in various forms. Today’s father is no longer always the traditional married breadwinner and disciplinarian in the family. He can be single or married; externally employed or stay-at home; gay or straight; an adoptive or step-parent; and a more than...

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Father absence is a pressing problem and has a devastating effect on our society, including our girls and women. We have all seen examples ...

Taken Into Custody: The War Against Fathers, Marriage, and the Family

Statistics and Research on the Consequences of Father Absence in America. ...children with more involved fathers experienced fewer behavioral problems and ... Children's Rights Florida shared this on Google+

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Florida DCF and Family Law Reform

With much chest-thumping, Gov. Rick Scott last week signed a law clipping auto-tag fees by about $25 per vehicle in Florida. He used the opportunity to blast former Gov. Charlie Crist for raising those fees five years ago.

What Scott cynically failed to mention during the bill-signing charade was that all the top Republicans standing at his side had also supported the auto-tag hikes. It was the depth of the recession, and the state desperately needed revenue.
Scott is desperate to appear gubernatorial because Crist, running as a Democrat, will likely be his opponent in the November election. The auto-tag fee cut was the centerpiece of a tax-relief agenda being pushed by the governor, who trails Crist in the early polls.
Two of the GOP lawmakers who were crowing about this grand windfall for motor-vehicle owners have an infinitely more important job in the days ahead. House Speaker Will Weatherford and Senate President Don Gaetz have a chance to do something truly crucial and good.
They can shape a law that saves actual lives — the lives of endangered children.
Bills that would strengthen Florida's child welfare laws are winding through both houses of the Legislature after publication of the Miami Herald's shocking investigative series, "Innocents Lost."
The newspaper documented the deaths of at least 477 children whose parents or caregivers had a history with the state's Department of Children and Families. During the six-year period studied by reporters, DCF consistently under-reported the number of victims in its files who died because of violence or negligence by parents and caregivers.
In 2008, for example, the state said the death toll was 79. Using DCF's own records,Herald reporters found 103 fatal cases that year.
Then, in 2009, the state reported that 69 children whose families had prior contact with DCF had died. Reporters counted 107.
The uncounted die just as wretchedly — and as unnecessarily — as the counted.
One of the most awful, notorious cases involved Nubia Barahona, a 10-year-old Miami girl who'd been tortured and starved by her adoptive parents. Soaked in poisonous chemicals, her decomposing body was found inside a black garbage bag on a pest-control truck.
Three years after the murder, the DCF still hasn't sent her case to the Florida Child Abuse Death Review Committee. Incredibly, Nubia's death remains officially uncounted.
The child-welfare system has been overwhelmed and broken for a long time, but that hasn't stopped lawmakers from hacking millions in DCF funding. But this year, Florida has accumulated an extra $1.3 billion in revenues, so there's no excuse not to take action to stop the killings.
Scott has proposed $40 million to hire more DCF investigators and improve their training. That's a start, but drug-treatment and counseling programs are also needed for those who've been allowed to keep their children while under supervision.
The sad truth is there aren't enough good foster homes to let the state move all the kids now living with reckless parents in high-risk situations. In recent years, the DCF has bent over backwards to hold dysfunctional families intact, too often with lethal consequences.
In 83 cases found by the Herald, a little boy or girl died after one or more parents had signed a so-called "safety plan" pledging to take better care of the child. The Senate version of the reform bill aims to make these safety plans more than just a piece of paper. The measure would require prompt and complete reporting of certain child deaths, and offer tuition-aid incentives for social workers who want to become child-abuse investigators.
Still, the Senate bill provides only $31 million in extra funding for child protection. The House version calls for $44.5 million.
"It's tragic where Florida finds itself," Weatherford said last week.
He and Gaetz have the clout — and a moral obligation — to make other lawmakers understand the profound urgency of DCF reform. Children who are known to be in danger are dying, and the state can't even properly count how many.
With $1.3 billion in unanticipated revenue lying around, the governor and Legislature can afford to invest more than a drop in the bucket to help Florida's most helpless children.
Lowering auto-tag fees by 25 bucks might be cause for giddy back-slapping in Tallahassee, but saving even one child from a tortuous death would be a more noble accomplishment.
And one you can't put a price on.
Hiaasen writes for the Miami Herald.

Representative Ritch Workman of Melbourne goes into more detail about the bill.

Alimony Reform Is Coming [Video]

Deborah Leff Israel founded the Florida chapter of the Second Wives Club, now called the Florida Women for Alimony Reform. Deborah explains alimony changes are needed to weed out people who truly need longer term support from those who are able-bodied and can work but get away without doing so–because of the law.
Lawyers.com videojournalist Amber Statler-Matthews reports on the changes in alimony law, looming in the horizon.
Deborah reconnected on Facebook with a friend, whom she had not seen for 26 years. They fell in love and were engaged in 2010. Three years later, they are still engaged. That’s because Deborah realized if she married her fiance and he fell into financial hardship — the permanent alimony granted to his ex-wife could become her responsibility.
Deborah’s club is part of a growing, national movement to reform alimony laws. The women in the group believe permanent alimony is wrong for several reasons:
  • The alimony checks continue until the payee remarries, even if the payor becomes sick or retires.
  • Increasing lifespans and co-habitation mean payments get extended much longer.
  • Permanent alimony ties former spouses to unhealthy relationships.
  • Court ordered alimony payments rely too much on the judge’s discretion.
Family law attorney, Lori Barkus, says new legislation, which creates uniformity and gives people standards and guidelines, is needed. She feels the laws should also allow judge’s discretion, in cases that warrant it.

Durational alimony allowing enough time for a long-term homemaker to establish a career, then payments should end.Reformers are pushing for the following:
  • Alimony based on established formulas that take into account the length of the marriage, and the age of supported spouse.
  • A set date for payments to end.
  • Removal of judicial discretion on the payment terms.
Women are now making up larger numbers in the workforce. A recent study shows that 40% of married women out earn their husbands. Change in alimony is coming.
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Cop Arrests Dad For Trying to Pick Kids Up From School

“You don’t need a reason as a parent to go get your children, they are our children”
A father was arrested for attempting to pick his kids up from school in a startling new example of how the state is increasingly treating children as its own property.

Removing The Shackles - Pope's decree about to cause mass resignations?

The People are ordering an investigation of the departments as well as Family Courts throughout the United States of America. We ask that all family court files,case files, court tapes, and videos be put into the investigation, as well as there be a federal lockdown on all CPS and family courts so that no tampering of documents can be done by such agencies, the fact is family court documents will show the fact that they are mishandled and manipulated by these agencies to insure incriminating charges are inevitable and due process is not being carried out, civil rights are violated, all human rights are violated and the United States Constitution is not on the agenda of these agencies. And the people of the United States of America are being abused by these powers.


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Child Support Laws Are In Need Of Reform

 Reblogged from The SoCraddock Method:An opinion piece by Brenda Manghane-Washington from the Chattanoogan.comExcerpt:I still believe there's a need of reform in child support laws. As they stand, there is no distinction between a parent who can't pay and a parent who refuses to pay child support. By incarcerating non-custodial parents who do not have the means to pay nothing is accomplished, the children still go without...

The Child Support Industry: Socialism With A Sexist Twist

Everything you need to know about “child support” is in this essay. The Child Support Industry: Socialism With A Sexist Twist September 30, 2002 | Gerald L. Rowles, Ph.D. Child Support, an overvalued idea, has its roots in Roosevelt’s New…

The #SoCraddockMethod Monday Morning Quarterback

A Monday morning quarterback is someone who is criticizes and/or states how they would have done something better or differently after the event has passed. Well, I’m stepping into the role to help guide you from defeat BEFORE you get…

Bleeding Heart Liberal

  The more I see the inside of this place, the less of a bleeding heart I become. The more I get dragged into this place, the more determined I am to spend the rest of my life demanding “equality”…

Child Support Enforcement and Guidelines are Unrealistic

By Joe Jones (jjones@cfuf.org) – the founder of the Center for Urban Families in Baltimore and Joan Entmacher Joe Jones (jentmacher@nwlc.org) is the vice president for Family Economic Security at the National Women’s Law Center. Raising a child takes a lot…

It is too late

Men It seems as if we have this, “I will figure it all out” mentality embedded in us. We may hear things from older people or from those who may have gone through a similar life experience, but we think…

Skip Child Support. Go to Jail. Lose Job. Repeat.

An excerpt from HERE: http://www.nytimes.com/2015/04/20/us/skip-child-support-go-to-jail-lose-job-repeat.html?smid=fb-share There is no national count of how many parents are incarcerated for failure to pay child support, and enforcement tactics vary from state to state, as do policies such as whether parents facing jail are given…

Bill would give parents going through divorce equal time with their kids

Parents going through a divorce could soon see equal time with their kids. If passed, the 50/50 parenting bill (Colorado Senate Bill 15-129), would recognize parental rights as fundamental rights, putting parents in divorce court on equal ground. “We’re looking…

Leading Women for Shared Parenting

A new group is emerging that may finally change the way Family Courts treat mothers and fathers. Currently, the default in most states is to award the lion’s share of the time with the children to mothers, and require the…

Is Forced Fatherhood Fair?

An excerpt: This weekend millions of Americans will happily celebrate the role that fathers play in their families. For some families, though — specifically those in which dad’s role was not freely assumed, but legally mandated — Father’s Day can…

How Can Twins Have Two Different Fathers?

A mother of twins was applying for public assistance in Passaic County, N.J., when she made the seemingly uncontroversial claim that one man was responsible for her progeny.
The truth, it turns out, was not so simple.
In an unusual ruling in State Superior Court in Passaic County, Judge Sohail Mohammed found that egg and sperm had colluded to create a medical oddity, according to a report in The New Jersey Law Journal on Thursday. The man who the woman said was the father of her twins was deemed responsible for only one.
The other, the ruling revealed, was conceived during a previously undisclosed tryst that happened within a week of sexual intercourse with the man she claimed was the father.
It was a tangled web of love and biology that gave rise to what The Law Journal called a precedent-setting ruling, one of only a few of such cases across the country. The man originally described as the twins’ father, identified in court documents only as A.S., will now have to pay child support only for the toddler who a DNA test showed was reliably his own.
The case took root when the mother, identified only as T.M., told the Passaic County Board of Social Services in the course of applying for benefits that A.S., her romantic partner, had fathered her twins, The Law Journal reported. The board, in turn, filed an application to establish his paternity and force him to pay child support for the twins, born in January 2013.
But the woman’s claim slowly fell apart. She revealed in testimony that she had had sex with a second, unidentified man within a week of having sex with her romantic partner. A paternity test was ordered.
And when the results came back last November, a routine case became a curiosity destined for legal textbooks.
Judge Mohammed accepted the results after testimony from Karl-Hans Wurzinger, the laboratory director of the Identity Testing Division at Laboratory Corporation of America, The Law Journal reported. Dr. Wurzinger, who has published a study saying that one in 13,000 reported paternity cases involved twins with separate fathers, testified that this was one of those rare cases: The woman’s twins were fertilized by different fathers during the same menstrual cycle.
Jennifer Wu, an obstetrician-gynecologist at Lenox Hill Hospital in Manhattan, called it a case of superfecundation, a rare phenomenon classically illustrated in medical textbooks with a black baby and a white baby who are twins.
A sperm can be viable for up to five days, Dr. Wu said. So if the mother in this case had sex with one of the men, ovulated, and then had sex with the other — all within the course of just under a week — one man’s sperm could have fertilized one egg, while the other’s fertilized another.

Forgiving $38,750 in Child Support, for My Kids’ Sake

   Should everyone support his or her children? Yes. Is court-ordered “child support” supporting your children? NO one knows.  Can someone tell me the what law requires court-ordered child support to be spent on the child? I didn’t think so. …

Child Support is a Crime Against Humanity | Georgia Senator (former) Nancy Schaefer

“A number of qualitative studies have documented how mothers and grandmothers serve as gatekeepers for the father’s presence in the child’s life, and how institutional practices create barriers, particularly for young fathers (Allen & Doherty, 1995; Wattenberg, 1993). Many of…

The reality of child suppprt and deadbeat dads

A must read! Originally posted here: http://reason.com/archives/2004/02/01/injustice-by-default Injustice by Default How the effort to catch “deadbeat dads” ruins innocent men’s lives Matt Welch from the February 2004 issue Tony Pierce remembers vividly the exact moment in November 2000 when the…

The craving for a baby that drives women to the ultimate deception

Liz Jones makes her most shocking confession yet By Liz Jones for The Mail  – Originally posted HERE: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2056875/Liz-Jones-baby-craving-drove-steal-husbands-sperm-ultimate-deception.html Anyone who meets me, or reads what I write, would think I don’t like children and never wanted to be a mother.…


An excerpt from this article by Rita Fuerst Adams, National Executive Director, National Parents Organization The momentous research favoring shared parenting coincides with statistics that demonstrate the negative impacts our broken system has on our children. An overwhelming amount of…

Arizona statutory rape victim forced to pay child support

An excerpt from this article: http://www.azcentral.com/story/news/arizona/politics/2014/09/02/arizona-statutory-rape-victim-forced-pay-child-support/14951737/ Nick Olivas became a father at 14, a fact he wouldn’t learn for eight years. While in high school, Olivas had sex with a 20-year-old woman. As he sees it now, she took advantage…

Noncustodial parent visitation rights bill signed into law

I read about this on this site: http://womenformen.org/2014/06/05/noncustodial-parent-visitation-rights-bill-signed-into-law/ OKLAHOMA CITY – Law-abiding noncustodial parents will no longer have to deal with having their visitation rights ignored or violated thanks to legislation signed into law Tuesday. Senate Bill 1612, by Sen.…

Halle Berry to pay $16,000 a month in child support to ex Gabriel Aubry

This is FUNNY!!! I woke up to this amazing and hilarious news. A judge has approved a settlement between Halle Berry and her ex-boyfriend over child support payments for their 6-year-old daughter. The agreement approved by Superior Court Judge Scott…

Child Support Is More Like Child Extort

I’m so glad I was proactive and made sure I stopped the bleeding before it got worse. I refused to pay child support. I think the whole idea is ridiculous and it needs to be totally overhauled and updated to reflect…

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"So live your life that the fear of death can never enter your heart. Trouble no one about their religion; respect others in their view, and demand that they respect yours. Love your life, perfect your life, beautify all things in your life. Seek to make your life long and its purpose in the service of your people. Prepare a noble death song for the day when you go over the great divide. Always give a word or a sign of salute when meeting or passing a friend, even a stranger, when in a lonely place. Show respect to all people and grovel to none. When you arise in the morning give thanks for the food and for the joy of living. If you see no reason for giving thanks, the fault lies only in yourself. Abuse no one and no thing, for abuse turns the wise ones to fools and robs the spirit of its vision. When it comes your time to die, be not like those whose hearts are filled with fear of death, so that when their time comes they weep and pray for a little more time to live their lives over again in a different way. Sing your death song and die like a hero going home." (Tecumseh).

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