Dr. Phil, Richard Rohr, and Alienation ~ Part 1
November 1st and 2nd brought to my attention two seemingly unconnected things.The first was a show on the Dr. Phil Show about Parental Alienation. Dr. Phil.com - Shows - Parental Alienation: Who's to Blame?.The second was a meditation by Richard Rohr about sincere non-self-hating regretful ownership of our mistakes.
If you've taken a moment to review the Dr.
November 1st and 2nd brought to my attention two seemingly unconnected things.The first was a show on the Dr. Phil Show about Parental Alienation. Dr. Phil.com - Shows - Parental Alienation: Who's to Blame?.The second was a meditation by Richard Rohr about sincere non-self-hating regretful ownership of our mistakes.
If you've taken a moment to review the Dr.
Dr. Phil, Richard Rohr and Alienation ~ Part 2
This is part 2 of the post on Dr. Phil, Richard Rohr and Alienation. To view part 1, click here.So after pondering what I had seen on the Dr. Phil Show episode on November 1st, I opened up my email the next day and came across the following meditation from the Centre for Action and Contemplation.
This is part 2 of the post on Dr. Phil, Richard Rohr and Alienation. To view part 1, click here.So after pondering what I had seen on the Dr. Phil Show episode on November 1st, I opened up my email the next day and came across the following meditation from the Centre for Action and Contemplation.
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Stories from the transition bridge: Polly plays ping pong
I get a lot of emails asking for help with older children who are emerging from 'alienation' and so I thought I would share with you Polly's tale.Polly is a twenty year old woman who has not had a relationship with her father for the past eleven years. Polly was separated from her father when she was nine years old after her mother moved out of the family home and took her with her.
Parental Alienation - Dr. L.F. Lowenstein - Southern England Psychological Services
I get a lot of emails asking for help with older children who are emerging from 'alienation' and so I thought I would share with you Polly's tale.Polly is a twenty year old woman who has not had a relationship with her father for the past eleven years. Polly was separated from her father when she was nine years old after her mother moved out of the family home and took her with her.
Is Parental Alienation Syndrome Recognized by Professionals?
"Is Parental Alienation Syndrome Recognized by Professionals? "...it has been argued that not enough research has been conducted. It is my belief that this line of reasoning is incorrect and that outside special interests have influenced the decision to exclude PAS."
Click link to alienation is child abuse.org
"Is Parental Alienation Syndrome Recognized by Professionals? "...it has been argued that not enough research has been conducted. It is my belief that this line of reasoning is incorrect and that outside special interests have influenced the decision to exclude PAS."
Click link to alienation is child abuse.org
LIVE from Argentina: Truth About So-Called PAS
The conference on Parental Alienation Syndrome will air live on the website
The conference on Parental Alienation Syndrome will air live on the website
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"Reckless Disregard" A True And Compelling Story About One Father's Fight
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HOW DID CHILDREN OF DIVORCE GET STUCK WITH THE VISITATION PLAN THAT AFFORDS THEM ACCESS TO THEIR NON-RESIDENTIAL PARENT ONLY ONE NIGHT DURING THE WEEK AND EVERY OTHER WEEK-END?
ReplyDeleteWhat is the research that supports such a schedule? Where is the data that confirms that such a plan is in the best interest of the child?
Well, reader, you can spend your time from now until eternity researching the literature, and YOU WILL NOT DISCOVER ANY SUPPORTING DATA for the typical visitation arrangement with the non-residential parent! The reality is that this arrangement is based solely on custom. And just like the short story, "The Lottery," in which the prizewinner is stoned to death, the message is that deeds and judgments are frequently arrived at based on nothing more than habit, fantasy, prejudice, and yes, on "junk science."
This family therapist upholds the importance of both parents playing an active and substantial role in their children's lives----especially in situations when the parents are apart. In order to support the goal for each parent to provide a meaningfully and considerable involvement in the lives of their children, I affirm that the resolution to custody requires an arrangement for joint legal custody and physical custody that maximizes the time with the non-residential----with the optimal arrangement being 50-50, whenever practical. It is my professional opinion that the customary visitation arrangement for non-residential parents to visit every other weekend and one night during the week is not sufficient to maintain a consequential relationship with their children. Although I have heard matrimonial attorneys, children's attorneys, and judges assert that the child needs the consistency of the same residence, I deem this assumption to be nonsense. I cannot be convinced that the consistency with one's bed trumps consistency with a parent!
Should the reader question how such an arrangement can be judiciously implemented which maximizes the child's time---even in a 50-50 arrangement----with the non-residential parent, I direct the reader to the book, Mom's House, Dads House, by the Isolina Ricci, PhD.
Indeed, the research that we do have supports the serious consequences to children when the father, who is generally the non-residential parent, does not play a meaningful role in lives of his children. The book, Fatherneed, (2000) by Dr. Kyle Pruitt, summarizes the research at Yale University about the importance of fathers to their children. And another post on this page summarizes an extensive list of other research.
Children of divorce or separation of their parents previously had each parent 100% of the time and obviously cannot have the same arrangement subsequent to their parents' separation. But it makes no sense to this family therapist that the result of parental separation is that the child is accorded only 20% time with one parent and 80% with the other. What rational person could possibly justify this?
PRO SE RIGHTS:
ReplyDeleteBrotherhood of Trainmen v. Virginia ex rel. Virginia State Bar, 377 U.S. 1; v. Wainwright, 372 U.S. 335; Argersinger v. Hamlin, Sheriff 407 U.S. 425 ~ Litigants can be assisted by unlicensed laymen during judicial proceedings.
Conley v. Gibson, 355 U.S. 41 at 48 (1957) ~ "Following the simple guide of rule 8(f) that all pleadings shall be so construed as to do substantial justice"... "The federal rules reject the approach that pleading is a game of skill in which one misstep by counsel may be decisive to the outcome and accept the principle that the purpose of pleading is to facilitate a proper decision on the merits." The court also cited Rule 8(f) FRCP, which holds that all pleadings shall be construed to do substantial justice.
Davis v. Wechler, 263 U.S. 22, 24; Stromberb v. California, 283 U.S. 359; NAACP v. Alabama, 375 U.S. 449 ~ "The assertion of federal rights, when plainly and reasonably made, are not to be defeated under the name of local practice."
Elmore v. McCammon (1986) 640 F. Supp. 905 ~ "... the right to file a lawsuit pro se is one of the most important rights under the constitution and laws."
Federal Rules of Civil Procedures, Rule 17, 28 USCA "Next Friend" ~ A next friend is a person who represents someone who is unable to tend to his or her own interest.
Haines v. Kerner, 404 U.S. 519 (1972) ~ "Allegations such as those asserted by petitioner, however inartfully pleaded, are sufficient"... "which we hold to less stringent standards than formal pleadings drafted by lawyers."
Jenkins v. McKeithen, 395 U.S. 411, 421 (1959); Picking v. Pennsylvania R. Co., 151 Fed 2nd 240; Pucket v. Cox, 456 2nd 233 ~ Pro se pleadings are to be considered without regard to technicality; pro se litigants' pleadings are not to be held to the same high standards of perfection as lawyers.
Maty v. Grasselli Chemical Co., 303 U.S. 197 (1938) ~ "Pleadings are intended to serve as a means of arriving at fair and just settlements of controversies between litigants. They should not raise barriers which prevent the achievement of that end. Proper pleading is important, but its importance consists in its effectiveness as a means to accomplish the end of a just judgment."
NAACP v. Button, 371 U.S. 415); United Mineworkers of America v. Gibbs, 383 U.S. 715; and Johnson v. Avery, 89 S. Ct. 747 (1969) ~ Members of groups who are competent nonlawyers can assist other members of the group achieve the goals of the group in court without being charged with "unauthorized practice of law."
Picking v. Pennsylvania Railway, 151 F.2d. 240, Third Circuit Court of Appeals ~ The plaintiff's civil rights pleading was 150 pages and described by a federal judge as "inept". Nevertheless, it was held "Where a plaintiff pleads pro se in a suit for protection of civil rights, the Court should endeavor to construe Plaintiff's Pleadings without regard to technicalities."
Puckett v. Cox, 456 F. 2d 233 (1972) (6th Cir. USCA) ~ It was held that a pro se complaint requires a less stringent reading than one drafted by a lawyer per Justice Black in Conley v. Gibson (see case listed above, Pro Se Rights Section).
Roadway Express v. Pipe, 447 U.S. 752 at 757 (1982) ~ "Due to sloth, inattention or desire to seize tactical advantage, lawyers have long engaged in dilatory practices... the glacial pace of much litigation breeds frustration with the Federal Courts and ultimately, disrespect for the law."
Sherar v. Cullen, 481 F. 2d 946 (1973) ~ "There can be no sanction or penalty imposed upon one because of his exercise of Constitutional Rights."
Schware v. Board of Examiners, United State Reports 353 U.S. pages 238, 239. ~ "The practice of law cannot be licensed by any state/State."
Sims v. Aherns, 271 SW 720 (1925) ~ "The practice of law is an occupation of common right."